2 things that never make things worse…

With everything going on in life i can’t come online and write some false-positive post or write about the actual goings-on because that at the moment feels like picking at the wounds.

So here we are…2 things that i do when life is sh*t and i need a pick- me-up…

1. Getting dressed and ready for the day.

This is huge for me. When feelings of helplessness or hopelessness set in this is where i can find respite. This is where my heart finally slows down and stops racing and i begin to go into auto pilot. Getting showered and doing skin care, followed by hair and make-up and putting on a co-ordinated outfit is my equivilant of a mental break. The order, the small and numerous steps taken to put myself together gives my mind a much needed break; i can drift off into the land of girliness where the most serious question i must ask myself is “will i be wearing blush today or not?” I can take my time over my eyebrows and let my mind focus on carefully applied products and each individual stroke of hair.

These moments demand nothing of me and belong to me and me alone. A huge anchor when things feel rough and out of control. I always have a comfort show playing in the background and I truly feel at peace.

2. Spending time outside

I’ve never taken a walk outside and regretted it. Something about walking in nature that just relaxes me and connects me most to myself. I can be my true self in nature because she offers no judgement and carries no expectations. My barrier to enjoying time outside, especially alone is the demands of motherhood and sometimes, it’s the will to get out. But as i said, i’ve never gone on a walk and regretted it. Going for walks also gives me a level of self respect because i know that i have done something positive for myself and kept my word.

when the world feels big and the responsibilities mount, i can always do these two things to give me that ‘everythings going to be okay’ feeling. Because sometimes its just that – a feeling of comfort- that we need. Taking on all my problems or trying to have all the answers at once isn’t always the answer. Sometimes the answer is to find small anchors that are emotionally neutral and ask nothing of us mentally and emotionally in order to have some respite. Cant always have the answers but i can take a break from trying.