Look, I’ve tried for most of my life to fit in. I spent nearly all of that time unaware that i was trying to fit in.
I’ve learned that fitting in doesn’t work. Not for me, and not for you.
Why?
Because in the pursuit of social acceptance you abandon yourself. You cancel any possibilities for genuine connection.
Fitting in comes at the cost of independent thinking.
You may think that morphing into those around you will provide safety and security, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Because no-one can perform forever. And one day the mask will slip, you’ll forget your lines and the security you found in masking your true self to fit in with the majority disappears at the drop of a hat.
You’ve outed yourself as “not like the rest of them”.
You’re now excluded, mocked and gossiped about. Lonelier than ever.
But what if i told you that you never had anything or anyone anyway? Because what you had whilst trying to be anyone and everyone but yourself was never truly yours. Never what you truly desired. Because you had spent so long denying that voice. That inner knowing that you do not align with something, somewhere, or someone.
You created that prison.
Being yourself, quirks, traumas, weird or boring interests and all, is the only way out. The only way to truly connect with people, places and life in general.
Because the people, places and experiences will that are life-giving and beautiful are indeed waiting for you.
Stop trying to fit in if you were made to stand out.
Nobody is going to thank you on your death bed for thinking like them. Or for not chasing your dreams. Or creating the life that you want for yourself.
Don’t give your life away. Live it. Fully.
EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
The Elusive Housewife 